volleyball

Conquer Your Fear Of Making an Error

“Be bold. If you are going to make an error, make a doozy, and don't be afraid to hit the ball”.

—Billie Jean King

You will make mistakes and that is the truth. Whether in life or in volleyball practice, we all make our share of errors. How many times did you fall just to get up and be stronger than before? The process of falling and getting back up repeats daily in our lives in almost everything we do.

While coaching, I am consistently coming across of “fear to make a mistake” in my athletes. If this is you remember: fear is not pushing you forward but holding you back. Being gutsy gives you by far bigger results and advantage than being timid and playing safe. Whether a beginner or a professional athlete, the errors will happen all along the way. 

One way to get over the fear is to practice visualization. Visualize...yourself hitting/serving/passing ball the way you want it..winning championship, getting a scholarship, playing in front of the big crowd…Visualize and you are more likely to do it. Take time before practice, game, point and simply imagine the outcome that you want. Your mind will be occupied with thoughts of success rather than failure. Visualization comes naturally for some players but not the others. You have to practice visualization it like any other volleyball skill. Try it today and work on it everyday. It will take the edge off. 

Athletes use your mistakes to your advantage. Be aware of them, analyze them and try to fix them. Use your time in practice to learn but not to fear. You are in practice to make things better, not to be perfect. Repeat, repeat and repeat: that is the only price you will have to pay to be great at something. Repetition will lead to change, change will lead to greater confidence and confidence will lead you to success. 

Be resilient in the face of the failure and see it as necessary for learning and achievement. Be fearless. That is the only way you will grow. It is time to let go of your fears. It is time to visualize your success and achieve it.

TRYOUTS: SUCCESS or DISAPPOINTMENT?

Volleyball Tryouts:

Congratulations to all players who DID  who made their desired teams.                  Congratulations for those who have NOT. Why?                   

This is your first athletic career obstacle. Your first disappointment. But such is life, disappointments come occasionally, but what matters is how do we bounce back. Do we learn from it? Do we work harder? Do we simply quit?  So, how do you deal with it? 

Tryouts come come twice a year: spring and fall. It takes constant training to get better at certain skill. It takes more than few hours to prep for volleyball tryouts.

As a player, I worked year around and as I was getting better, I only put more hours in- never less. The more you know- the more you'll understand and see things that need improvement. When I was disappointed in my game, even though it hurt my feelings, I would go back to the gym and put work in when all I wanted to do is sit back and feel sorry for myself. That's is what it takes to be an elite athlete. That is how you separate yourself from majority. Work. Commitment. Sacrifice. Passion.

For all of players who DID NOT make the team- ask yourself- do I want to play this sport? If the answer is yes, stop feeling pity, grab the volleyball and get to work.  It's that simple.    For those who DID make it? Is this time to sit down and take it easy? NO- get your volleyball and get to work.                                                    

Athletes, this applies to anything in life, not just volleyball. You can't go forward and grow with wishful thinking. Set the goals and work for them. Keep in mind, somebody out there is always working when you are not.

Trading Heels for Volleyball

Let me start this by saying that I am overwhelmed by support from my husband, family, co-workers, players’ parents, coaches and of course all of my girls. The decision has been tough and scary but with an immediate relief and enormous gratitude. It feels right. 

I've did it before my 30th Birthday, the timeline that I had set for myself. I've done what most of people including myself dream of all their lives, but never have courage to do it. Once again leaving safe and comfortable and following my heart: I left comfort of my home for new country and culture 11 years ago and here I am again. Leaving comfort and stability to pursuit my dreams and influence others. 

 I left my promising office career to do what I am put on this earth to do. I left advanced Degrees to do what I have done for over 20 years now. To fulfill my purpose that I have been given. To share my knowledge and passion. To serve community. To inspire and mentor. To breathe in confidence into people. To lead by example. To show that all things are possible. To follow my own words "Go for it".

I read these words yesterday written by sister of my late friend Dominic: “All of us are standing in a “yard” somewhere deciding whether or not  we are going to move. One-day death will come for each of us. We can live and love fully and boldly or we can remain paralyzed by fear—it’s just matter of price you want to pay “. In life there are no guarantees and there is always a tradeoff- you win some and you lose some. However, we can’t go forward in fear. I choose to go forward with heart full of love, passion and trust in what I do. I believe it will be ok, it already is. 

I think people tend to underestimate coaching. We value big titles and surely they have place and purpose. However, coaching/teaching has enormous impact on our society and planet in general. Guiding young people to make the right decisions, establishing their work ethic, teaching team work, commitment, accountability, punctuality; pushing through tough times, stepping out of the comfort zone. Those skills WILL yield better bosses, doctors, nurses, attorneys, moms, politicians, educators, co-workers, coaches…..better people. Coaching is IMPORTANT. It is more than just Volleyball. We all need coach.

In life we only have few opportunities to make major life changes. Recognize yours and GO for it. Trust that everything,everything(Absolutely everything)will be ok, (in case you are wondering).

"If you wait until the wind and the weather are just right, you Will never plant anything and never harvest anything". - Ecclesiastes 11:4